No More Fighting with Your Ex

YLI_048-turn-300x200Let’s face it, whether you like it or not, especially if you have kids, your Ex will always be your Ex. So they’ll probably be part of your life in some way. How you decide to relate with him or her is completely up to you. If you think that it’s up to them that’s where the problem starts. The first thing you should understand and accept, not only with your Ex, but with every kind of relationship you have, how you choose to “show up” is completely in your control. No matter what your Ex tries to “do to you”, how YOU react to it will decide what happens, try to respond instead of react. You may be asking what’s the difference?

Well, the difference is worlds apart. When you react, when you immediately get angry or upset or excited, you’re allowing your emotions to control you, and when you respond, when you take a moment, or even a few moments, let whatever it is they’re saying to sink in, and think about how important it is to answer correctly for yourself, you’re now allowing yourself to control your emotions. I’m not saying that you should never get angry, I’m just saying – pause, take stock of the situation and measure your emotions.

Probably when you were married, you felt like you had to answer for whatever was happening because you were trying to make your partner happy, even at the cost of your happiness, besides the fact that it’s no longer true between you and you’re now Ex, it shouldn’t be true for you with anyone. Your happiness should always come first, that doesn’t mean that it should be at the detriment of someone else, it only means that if you’re not happy with the decisions you’re making in your life, it will play out in so many aspects of your day to day living.

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